Chapter 5: The True Closure

Closure is not something that is given to us by another person. It’s not something we can demand or expect to find in someone else’s apology, in the resolution of a conflict, or in the finality of a relationship. True closure isn’t about someone else at all. It is a gift we give ourselves—a choice we make when we decide that the past no longer has control over us.

The truth is, we often spend so much time waiting for closure to be handed to us, as though it is something external that we must receive before we can move on. We wait for the apology, for the explanation, for the moment when everything makes sense and we can finally breathe again. But the truth is, we may never get that moment. We may never receive the apology, the understanding, or the validation we’ve been searching for. And that’s okay. Because closure was never meant to come from someone else.